This topic has been floating in my mind for a while now. At first, I wanted to focus on how people can express their grief when they have experienced the loss of a loved one. However, I realized expressing grief is not always the emotion a person is trying to release. When you think of the person who has passed on, you shouldn't simply dwell on the present situation, but express and reminisce about the fond times you've had together as well.
Through my own experience, more often than not, the short period of time I take to remember the fond moments in my mind tend to follow with a short period of solemn silence as I come back to reality. I know this may sound depressing, but it's really not. It's interesting how the emotions of happiness and sadness can intertwine with one another leaving a person feeling satisfied. The reason I believe this is so is because 1) even a seemingly insignificant memory can bring a smile to your face, which uplifts your heart and 2) that solemn silence helps a person to take a small step towards coming to terms with the situation.
With all that said, the following are my suggestions on how to express your feelings after a loved one has passed away (in no particular order):
- Write or read a memorial poem that draws out the deep feelings contained within you.
- Look through old photos and paint a picture of one that brings you the most joy.
- Write or listen to a song that reminds you of your loved one.
- Get together with family and/or friends who share your loss and start reminiscing together.
- Visit their place of rest and speak out loud about whatever is going through your mind.
- Please comment and provide your suggestions as well...
Ultimately, the key is to do something constructive that will prevent you from bottling up all your emotions (both sadness and happiness and everything else in-between) and allow you to express your feelings steadily.
And as always, if you haven't already done so, you should create an online memorial for your loved one.