I have had multiple conversations with family and friends about why they don't post more memories of Eddie, notes to Eddie, or simply their thoughts on how it has effected their lives. It usually comes down to either I feel my memories of Eddie are special and that they prefer to keep it to themselves or simply because they want to make their posts to/of him "good".
The former explanation is a choice that I can respect because everyone mourns differently. Personally, I prefer to share as many of my experiences as possible so that others can regale in them as well. The latter explanation, though heart warming, because they feel their loved one deserves the best, should not prevent people from posting. As I touched on in my previous article, "Scriptures, Writings, and Poems About Losing A Loved One", I believe all of our loved ones who have passed away would prefer to have the most simplistic response from you than nothing at all.
However, for the perfectionists out there, I suggest doing the following to assist in helping them speak from the heart:
- Start with reading a memorial poem that conveys your feelings.
- Imagine you're writing their eulogy.
- Reminisce by looking through old photos.
- You don't have to create a post alone. Work with others who share your memories and write about a fantastic story you all experienced with your loved one.
- Imagine your loved one is in front of you right now. What do you want to say to them?
- It may sound boring, but talk about how your day went or what your family is doing.
- Just write a note to say "I love you."
Remember, online memorials are here to immortalize our loved one through memories and thoughts of them. No matter how poorly written you may think it comes out, the bottom line is that your loved one will appreciate and be happy that they are continually in our thoughts.