The following are snippets from a eulogy given by a close family friend which really sums up who our dad was as a person.
- He was not highly-educated but he was a learned man with a love for classical Chinese literature. Those of you who knew him can remember how he enjoyed spending hours at the library. And he left behind examples of his own writing that now are family treasures.
- With his sons, and with just about everyone he met, Tommy took people as they were. He did not judge others, and he expected that others would not--should not--judge him. He was who he was, without false bravado and without shame, and this gave him honesty and independence that few of us possess. He was not a man concerned with appearances. And if he sometimes missed occasions to make a fuss over others, in return he did not expect a fuss to be made over him. Still, his smile showed his appreciation, and his unspoken gestures--perhaps preparing a special dish in the kitchen--showed how much he cared.
- Let us remember Tommy Au as a family man, as a son, a brother, an uncle, a cousin and most of all as a responsible and devoted husband and father--a good man, a kind man--and as we hold him in our hearts and memories, he can remind us of who and what we should treasure most.